Our birthdays were 10 days apart so we celebrated together. We exchanged presents. I received a pink diamond necklace. He said he bought it several years ago while in Australia and saved it for the person he wanted to spend the rest of his life with – me!
That was June 2009. We broke up just as 2010 started. We stayed cordial with each other. I waited to see if he would ask for the necklace back. He never did. Our birthdays come around again this year. He sends me a “Happy BDay” text on mine. Although I missed his actual day, I went on Facebook to post a “Happy Belated Bday” message on his wall. But my access was blocked. I was listed as a friend, I just couldn’t post on his page like his other friends could.
So, I sent a FB email – “Just wanted to wish you a happy 40th birthday. I was going to post it on your FB page but you’ve blocked me.” His response – “Thanks.” I wasn’t sure why he’d block me, especially since I left the relationship, but just felt that it would be best to just ‘unfriend’ him since for some reason he felt some conflict. I didn’t send him an email or anything, just unchecked a button.
Next day I receive the following message – “Can you send me my chain back? Especially since we know you are not “the one” and that is the circumstance which I gave it to under. Thanks for the de-friend as well.”
I found the message very interesting. It’s been over six months and not once had he even thought once about the necklace. Now this message comes out of nowhere. So here’s my question to you – how would you respond?
1. Ignore his message and keep the necklace
2. Reply back, “I see turning 40 didn’t make you more mature”
3. Just send it back
4. Tell him I gave it to my boyfriend’s mother
5. Pawn it and spend the money on a shopping spree
6. Tell him if he wants it, he’ll need to fly to Louisville and get it
7. Ask why all of sudden he wants it back
Tell me both what you WOULD do and what you SHOULD do (not necessarily always the same answer). Should you return all gifts after a breakup or is jewelry a special exception? Like with a previous scenario, I’ve already acted on the situation but am very curious how others would have handled it.
M.Y. June 2010