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Engagement Ring No More

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Engagement Ring No More

Feb 11-4I’ll never forget the moment that Milton proposed to me.  It was a wonderful experience.  The traveling, bonding, and wedding planning have been extremely meaningful.  But unfortunately something happened.  Something I would have never imagined.  It just wasn’t supposed to happen this way!

If you’ve seen me the past two weeks you have noticed that I haven’t worn an engagement ring.  Well, here’s what happened.  Back in January one of the small side diamonds fell out of my ring.  Luckily it could be replaced for free, I just needed to mail it in. I also decided to have it resized from a 4 1/4 to a 4 1/2.

I mailed the ring on February 12 via registered mail.  They said it would arrive February 15.  I checked online 2/15, it had not arrived to it’s location.  I checked again 2/16, 2/17 and 2/18 – still nothing.  I became worried.  Although it was registered mail, my engagement ring was either randomly lost somewhere in the US or a postal worker was sporting a nice rock.  It finally arrived that Saturday.

All was well and Milton received an email saying the ring would arrive on February 22.  Yippee! I was excited and even rearranged my schedule so I could be home to sign for it.  The night before, Milton received a phone call and a follow up email. Here’s what it said – “Unfortunately it appears that your diamond was chipped during the production process. Our jewelers utilize the latest techniques and great care when we do any repairs and production on our pieces but on very rare occasions a diamond can chip under pressure during this process.”  ARE YOU SERIOUS?!!

In other words, they messed up my diamond and my engagement ring is now in engagement ring heaven!  Although I was very bothered, everyone was very helpful in assisting me in finding a substitute diamond.  I hope to have a new ring on my hand in the next couple of days.  I joked with Milton that I guess that means we are no longer engaged and he is now just my boyfriend.  So if you see me ringless on my left ring finger, don’t fret.  I’ll have new hardware soon.  Team Yeager + Turner is still in motion!
M.Y. February 2011

One Year Later

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One Year Later

Feb 11-3This Valentine’s Day I will celebrate my one year anniversary with Milton.  It’s hard to believe all that we have been through over this past year and our wedding will be just around the corner.  We have grown not only as a couple but also as friends.

But, I almost didn’t give Milton a chance.  Milton and I met on Match.com.  Yes, online dating is alive, well and successful.  He sent me a “wink”.  I glanced at his profile, saw his age and didn’t pay must attention to the rest of his profile.  Milton is seven years younger than me and the last thing I wanted to do was play games or get free community service by hanging out with a young stud. He received no response.

About two weeks later I was looking through my emails and came across his profile.  I had time on my hands to waste, so I took some time and read his entire profile.  He sounded as if he had some potential so I “winked” back.  This started several emails between us and then a planned phone conversation.  What I thought would be a 30 minute conversation, ended up ending at 3:30 in the morning!  From there I knew he was someone I needed and wanted to meet.

That simple wink created a special bond, relationship and engagement.  And I almost passed up the opportunity.  I almost let a good thing get away simply because of vain standards I possessed.  Whether it’s a potential date, potential job or general opportunity – don’t turn your nose up just because it goes against your norm or preference.  Don’t be afraid to think and look outside the box.  They say insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting the same results.  Give ‘different’ a chance because it may be the change you need.

Love exists in many shapes and fashion.  To Milton – thank you for being my other half, strengths in times of need and #1 fan in times of joy. You make me a better person and I hope to be a great wife.  To OnyxLouisville readers – I love you for making Louisville a successful community that embraces ideas both big and small.  We are a valuable community and I thank you for letting me be a small part of it.

Best Gift Ever

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The Best Gifts Ever

Dec 10-3If you’ve read my columns the past couple of years, you will know how much I anticipated one day being able to start my own new holiday traditions similar to what I was able to do with my parents before they passed away.  While I greatly appreciated being able to eat at my friends houses, I longed for something to call my own.

And so this year some traditions began.  Three weeks ago Milton and I decided to decorate our own Christmas tree.  Gone were my monkey decorations (which I now refer to as the bachelorette tree).  We found ourselves walking up and down the aisles of Target to find ornaments and tinsel that matched our style.  We found a red “2010 Christmas” ornament and bought two stockings – each with the letter M on them.

It was great how we organized our little system of hanging up the ornaments.  While it was too cold to hang decorations outside on the bushes, we instead put electric candles in the windows.  I was amused when Milton came back downstairs with one candle.  He said, “I didn’t put this candle up because it’s in the same room as your wedding dress.  I know that room is off limits!”

All of the decorations were up and we were proud of ‘our first Christmas tree’.  We (well at least I) had worked up an appetite and were headed out the door.  Before I could put on my shoes, Milton says “Hold on, there’s one thing missing. “  He walks out to his car and I’m standing there clueless and to what he’s talking about.  He walks inside carrying a big red box and two smaller gray boxes.  I realize that they are my Christmas presents!  They have now been sitting under the tree for three weeks.  Although I have no clue what is in them, they are the best gifst ever!

DUI and I

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Dec 10-2My fiancé and I had just returned from an amazing trip to North Carolina.  He lives in Indianapolis about 45 minutes from the airport.  It had been snowing so it took us a little bit longer to get home.  We were only about a block from his house and were sitting at a stop light.  All of a sudden – BAM!!  A car ran into the back of us.  Before Milton could explode, I suggested he calm down, stop the car, get out, check everything and get the driver’s information.

Luckily there was no damage to Milton’s or the other driver’s car.  Milton suggested I get back in the car to stay warm.  He stayed outside to continue talking with the lady and get her license plate # and all other info.  When he got back into the car, he was on his cell phone and LIVID!  This lady was drunk!!  Milton immediately called 911 to report the incident.  He noticed the lady had a ½ empty bottle of brandy on her passenger seat.

Once the police came, we were told we could leave since there were no injuries and no car damage.  We went on our way to the grocery store and left 30 minutes later.  We drove back to the scene and saw the lady’s car sitting on the side of the road, the police car had its lights on and the lady was sitting in the back of the police car.

Turns out, homegirl had a blood alcohol level of .24!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Not good.  So not good.  None of this made for a happy fiancé.  BUT HERE’S THE THING – Milton and I stopped a drunk driver.  Yeah, she hit us.  But, there was no damage to our car.  My back started hurting a couple of hours later and I’ve been seeing my chiropractor and am feeling better. Think about if she would have kept driving.  She could have serious injured or killed someone.  She could have killed us! As much as we were inconvenienced for that hour on Sunday, the experience ended up being a blessing in disguise.  The lady was arrested for public intoxication, driving under the influence and reckless driving.  The only Christmas she ruined was her own.  And, although I had some back pains, it was the perfect reason to get some good massages once we arrived home!!!

M.Y. December 2010

The Big O

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The Big O

Nov10-1It’s one of the things that I wanted to accomplish in the next nine months.  I tried several times, sometimes daily, but it never happened.  Well, it did actually happen seven years.  I knew I wasn’t the only person trying (unsuccessfully) to do the big O, but I kept thinking positive and never gave up.

Sitting in my spam email last Monday was an interesting address.  Here’s what it said: “We received your email regarding the B taping on Thursday, Oct. 28th and we have some limited availability for this show!  If there are still seats available when we receive your email, you will be sent a confirmation sheet with all the details about attending this show. Please understand, you are NOT confirmed until you receive this confirmation email from us.”  I re-read the email a couple more times before realizing that I was finally able to snag tickets – to the final season of the Oprah Winfrey Show!

Milton and I talked about whether we could get off work just three days later and said going to the Oprah Show was a once in a lifetime opportunity.  So, I made the drive to Indy and then we made the drive to Chicago together.  Since we received last minute tickets, we had no idea what the subject would be.  We arrived early and stood in line with others.  A group of giddy women said the following things, “I can’t believe we get to see him!”, “I’ve been to all of his concerts!” and “He is so cute!” They never said a name so we became very curious as to who it was.

So, I asked.  They looked at me and said, “You don’t know?!  OMG – It’s RICKY MARTIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”  My response was neutral, but Milton’s face was full of anger.  For the next 20 minutes he felt like he had been punked.  As we watched the line grow, we realized Milton was one of only about 3 straight men in the audience.  I told him it was better than the Sound of Music reunion. He agreed, realized it was really about attending the Oprah Show and put on another smiling face.

Once we got through the TIGHT security (no cell phones, cameras, paper or pens) and sat in the waiting area everyone become more excited.  Once in the studio it all became real.  Because Ricky was performing a concert, they hyped up the audience and had us all dancing in our seats.  Ricky Martin gave a heart felt interview about telling the world he was gay and he and Joss Stone performed their new song “I Am Me Because of You”.  We walked out of the theater with a sense of accomplishment.  Milton apologized for his brief saltiness.  We experienced something that many people only dream of being able to do.  We were “livin la vida loca”!

M.Y. November 2010

Just The Right Spot

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Just the Right Spot

Oct10-4Our first date was on Valentine’s Day.  It started out just relaxing at my place with both of us dressed in sweats.  Once the evening came, we changed clothes to get ready for our night.  I threw on a cute dress and some makeup and walked down to the basement to see if he was ready.  Milton’s face lit up, our eyes locked and we shared our first kiss.  The rest of the evening consisted of dinner and a Frankie Beverly and Maze concert.  It was a Valentine’s Day that I will never forget.

Spring forward a couple of months.  Milton calls at 1:30 in the morning.  I am already asleep.  I call him once I wake up and asked what is wrong.  He says he needs to tell me something, but that he prefers to email it.  I get nervous and think about all the negative things that he could tell me.  As I opened the email, here is what I read, “I love you! I love you so much! I knew this since the first moment you stepped downstairs into your basement and we met eyes and kissed. I haven’t felt something so right before since I had shoes that fit. I have bottled my feelings up out of fear that I was moving too fast but now I’m going to let my heart take over for my fear.  I need you! I knew this since our first conversation and you made me feel not only wanted, appreciated, and loved, but you make me feel like a king that you want to shine. I told you from the beginning that I could not promise the world overnight, and it may be scary that we both don’t know how the next few months or years of our lives might play out, but I know that the world is a lot less scarier place with you in it. The Lord never promised that life would be easy, in fact he promised that the road to glory would be hard; however, he always promised to be by our side in good and bad.  I want to build a love with you that is unconditional and is strong no matter the weather”

And that was the beginning of our relationship.  Milton helped comfort me through my low points (like not becoming a professional fitness competitor) and I tried to be equally supportive in his life (like studying for the Bar).  I started working in the fitness industry and continue to build OnyxLouisville.  He passed the Bar, was sworn in as a lawyer and already has a job.  It seemed like regardless of what was happening in each of our lives, being there for each other was the overall constant that never disappeared.

Friday, October 22, 2010 was a regular day for me.  Milton drove to Louisville and we went to the Bill Bellamy show at the Improv.  We came back to my house and I took some of my clothes upstairs. As I walked back to the first floor, Milton was nowhere to be found.  I called his name and he asked me to come in the basement.  As I arrived on the bottom step, Milton stood in the same spot we had our first kiss.  As he got on one knee, he talked about the difference I have made in his life and the future he wants us to have together. He asked me to marry him – OF COURSE I said yes…….

M.Y. October 2010