Relationships are hard enough. What makes relationships even more difficult is the popularity of Facebook! I remember when I first set up my FB profile – birthday, work location, favorite tv shows etc. Then they asked for status. At that time I contently checked single.
Then last year I got in a relationship with someone. I was ecstatic to meet someone that I was compatible with and happy to have a mate. But, then that awkward conversation came. No, it wasn’t who would move where. It wasn’t how long to wait before meeting each other’s family. It wasn’t even about pressing the toothpaste from the bottom or the middle. It was about updating our FB status. Should we? Shouldn’t we? Hmmmm….. We finally decided to change our status to “In a relationship” – big things were happening in FB-land.
The congrat messages were posted on my wall. People wanted to know more information about the guy. One friend even called and was upset that he had to find out I was in a relationship as opposed to me telling him first!
So, the year carried on and guy and I did some great things together. Pics of our events were posted on my page. He was tagged. I was tagged. Life was great.
And then we broke up. When it happened I didn’t go and boast and brag about it to people. He and I remained friends and continued to talk. But then I realized one thing – I had to change my Facebook status! I didn’t want everyone to see “Michelle went from ‘in a relationship’ to ‘single’” on my page so I researched a ways to change it without making it public – and I did.
I thought all was good until a guy interested in me called recently and we had the following convo:
Him: Is that your ex-boyfriend on your FB page?
Me: Maybe, does he look like my bodyguard?
Me: Yes, that’s him.
Him: There are a lot of pics of you and him on your page and it looks like you’re together. You might want to look into that.
So, I had to go through this mental dilemma. Removing the pics of him is removing many of my memories from last year. However, I am no longer in a relationship and don’t want it to appear that way. However, he could have untagged his name from the pics but did didn’t (will this offend him?)
In the end, I realized it wasn’t about the ex, it was about me. I went online and hit the delete, delete, delete button. Who knew we’d have to breakup in so many ways?
Breaking up is hard enough. What makes breaking up even more difficult is the popularity of Facebook!
M.Y. February 2010