A Nasty Tone/A New Year
My Zumba group and I were working out at an upstairs location. We were grooving to the beats, enjoying ourselves. I noticed a woman watching us from the back door. I assumed she was interested in maybe doing a class. We carried on. I then noticed her standing at the front door watching us. Once again, we kept doing our thing. She finally said “Excuse me”. I stopped the music to see how we could help her. With an attitude she said that she had to lock up upstairs. I told her that was fine and that we would lockup once we finished. I asked if she minded telling the owner downstairs what she had told us. With even more of an attitude she said, “Yes, I would mind!” I was taken aback. It took me a couple of beats of the songs to get back on track. We were all surprised with her demeanor but just brushed it off.
Well, I guess this lady was going through something because the next day she came to the facility to give me a card. She apologized for the way that she spoke to us and stated that that was not the way she really is. I shared her card with the group. We realized that everyone has their good and bad days and that her attitude was probably much larger than her interaction with us.
I could have put her on my enemy list, but I did something different. I realized the value I could give to the business where she works. I reached out to the manager (and didn’t mentioned the incident) and am forming a partnership with them. As we enter a new year, think about some of the things or people that have affected you either positively or negatively. Think about how (or if) you want them to be a part of 2011. Just remember, though, you can’t control another person’s actions. If you want someone to continue with you into 2011, remember you are accepting them just the way they are. It’s not about spending next year trying to change them. Not everyone should make it into next year. That man that always hurts you – leave him alone! If he wanted to be with you he would. The friend that always lies about you behind your back – leave her alone! That’s not a true friend. That person that serves as a source of inspiration for you (even if you don’t know him/her personally) – keep him/her close! Surround yourself with positive people doing positive things. Think about all that you want to accomplish, write it down, tell the world and make it happen!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
M.Y. December 2010